The lifestyles of music and media moguls, from rock stars of the 1970s to hip-hop royalty like Sean “Diddy” Combs, have long blurred the lines between power, excess, and exploitation. With current headlines swirling around Diddy’s federal charges of sexual assault and trafficking, the entertainment industry once again finds itself under the microscope.
These accusations come after years of whispers surrounding the former Bad Boy Records CEO, known as much for his legendary white parties as for his music career. But how does Diddy’s lifestyle compare to past figures like Hugh Hefner and the 70s rock scene? Are we witnessing a continuation of a cultural pattern that has existed for decades, with powerful men leveraging their status to engage in questionable behavior under the guise of the “rock star” lifestyle?
To understand the parallels between Diddy’s alleged misconduct and past icons, we must first dive into the 1970s rock era—a time where sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll ruled. Bands like Led Zeppelin, Aerosmith, and Lynyrd Skynyrd were the kings of the scene, and with them came an entourage of young women, many underage, who followed the bands from city to city. These “groupies,” as they were called, became an intrinsic part of rock culture. Pamela Des Barres, one of the most famous groupies of that era, documented her experiences in her memoir *I’m with the Band*. Des Barres writes about her encounters with rock legends like Jimmy Page and Mick Jagger, romanticizing the lifestyle and reflecting on her consensual relationships as a young woman in the scene.
But beneath the glamorized narratives, there were darker undertones. Some of these relationships crossed into territory that today would be deemed abusive or exploitative. For example, rock legends like David Bowie and Steven Tyler were known to have relationships with underage girls—Bowie with Lori Maddox, who was 14 at the time, and Tyler with a teenage groupie he became her legal guardian to continue their relationship. It was a time when societal norms were different, and rock stars operated in a world with few consequences for their behavior. A 1970s magazine called *Star* even featured articles on these underage “groupies,” how-to articles on how to get with the band, and groupie comic strips, often highlighting the escapades of young women trying to sneak into band members’ hotel rooms.
The magazine, which ran through the early 70s, mirrored the cultural acceptability of these behaviors. The rockers themselves weren’t shy about admitting their preferences for younger girls either. Lynyrd Skynyrd’s Ronnie Van Zant famously bragged about his “School Girl” conquests, while Aerosmith’s Steven Tyler referred to his young groupies as “sweet little things.”
Yet, what’s striking is that many of these women, even years later, have expressed that they didn’t see themselves as victims. Pamela Des Barres has frequently emphasized that she felt in control of her choices, arguing that these relationships were consensual and part of the freedom that defined that era. However, the legality and morality of these encounters have come under scrutiny in modern times.
During the same period, another cultural icon built his empire—Hugh Hefner, founder of *Playboy* magazine and his infamous Playboy Mansion. Hefner’s parties were legendary, drawing Hollywood’s elite for nights filled with excess. At the heart of the Playboy ethos was the celebration of female sexuality—but always through a male gaze. Like the rock stars of the 70s, Hefner cultivated an environment where women were both the main attraction and the commodities. His mansion became the site of countless parties that often involved underage women, drugs, and allegations of coercion.
In recent years, with the #MeToo movement and the subsequent reassessment of power dynamics, numerous women have come forward with disturbing stories about what really went down behind the gates of the Playboy Mansion. Women who lived there, such as Holly Madison and others who appeared on *The Girls Next Door*, have shared tales of manipulation, emotional abuse, and pressure to engage in sexual activities they weren’t comfortable with. The allegations against Hefner, much like those against the rock stars of the 70s, highlight how power imbalances can turn what appears consensual on the surface into something far more complicated beneath.
This comparison between rock stars and Hefner was recently brought up during an episode of my Livestream *RSVP with Jill Munroe*; I talked about recent remarks made by Dr. Umar Johnson that “Puff Daddy is Hip-Hop’s Hugh Hefner.” He made the connection between the two men’s notorious parties and their use of fame to surround themselves with beautiful women, often in exploitative ways.
Fast forward to the 90s and early 2000s, and we see another mogul making waves in the music industry—Sean “Diddy” Combs. Like the rock stars and Hugh Hefner before him, Diddy was a master at cultivating an image of success, indulgence, and sexual freedom. His famous white parties became the stuff of legend, drawing celebrities, models, and musicians for nights of glamorous debauchery. I can say that I attended a few back in the day, and it was the place to be – with no sign of freakoff activities. I’m sure that stuff went down later at the after-after party.
But much like the rock stars of the 70s, Diddy’s image now comes with a cloud of allegations. In recent years, rumors of his involvement in coercive sexual activities have surfaced. Multiple women and men have come forward, accusing him of abuse, manipulation, and trafficking. The allegations detail a lifestyle of control where people were allegedly drawn in by the allure of fame and fortune, only to find themselves caught in toxic, abusive relationships.
One such woman is Diddy’s ex-girlfriend, Cassie. After dating him for over a decade, Cassie eventually left the relationship, later alluding to the emotional and psychological abuse she endured during their time together. Cassie’s experience can, in some ways, be compared to those teen rock star girlfriends of the 70s, many of whom found themselves in similar situations of power imbalance, just as Lori Maddox and Bebe Buell were drawn into the orbit of their rock-star boyfriends.
Groupies, Vixens, and Video Girls: A Tale as Old as Time
While the 70s rock scene had groupies like Pamela Des Barres and Bebe Buell, the 2000s hip-hop scene had video vixens like Karrine “Superhead” Steffans. In her memoir *Confessions of a Video Vixen*, Steffans details her tumultuous relationships with some of the biggest names in hip-hop, including Diddy. Much like *I’m with the Band*, her book pulls back the curtain on a world where women were worshipped and discarded. Steffans, like Des Barres, emphasizes her agency in her relationships with powerful men but also acknowledges the darker side of the lifestyle—drug addiction, exploitation, and emotional abuse.
The parallels between the two eras are striking. Just as rock stars were untouchable in the 70s, so were hip-hop moguls like Diddy in the 2000s. Both groups of men surrounded themselves with beautiful women, often younger and more vulnerable, and used their fame and wealth to create environments where boundaries were blurred and consent was murky. And just as the rock stars of the 70s were eventually held to account for their behavior (if only through the court of public opinion), Diddy now finds himself facing federal charges that could bring his empire crashing down.
So, are Diddy and Hefner two sides of the same coin, as Dr. Umar Johnson suggested? In many ways, yes. Both men used their wealth and power to build worlds where they were surrounded by women, often younger and more vulnerable. Both men created environments where excess was the norm and where the line between consensual relationships and exploitation was frequently crossed. And both men, while celebrated for their contributions to pop culture, now find their legacies tarnished by allegations of abuse.
Yet, it’s important to recognize that times have changed. While the 70s rock stars and Hugh Hefner operated in a world where such behavior was largely excused or ignored, today’s media landscape is far less forgiving. Diddy’s legal battles are only just beginning, but the court of public opinion has already started to weigh in. As more people come forward to share their stories, it becomes increasingly clear that the culture of excess and exploitation that has long defined the entertainment industry may finally be coming to an end.
The question now is: how will history remember Diddy? Will he be seen as a victim of the same “rock star” lifestyle that consumed so many before him? Or will he be remembered as a man who used his power and influence to exploit those around him? Only time will tell.
*Get the books mentioned
‘I’m With The Band: Confessions of a Groupie’
* Watch “Secrets of Playboy” on Prime Video
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